I turned 34 in July. I'm not married and have no children. There is little to no pressure from my family to "settle down". They never ask me when I am going to get married. They never remind me of the sounds of my biological clock. They are proud of me and support my wanderlust.
However, I couldn't help but to feel a certain way about my mother's latest WhatsApp profile picture. I love that my mother is on WhatsApp. I do not love that she has someone else's baby as her profile pic. What I love even less is that this baby is the child of a young woman I used to babysit...OUCH!
In preparing to be away for the next ten months, I've been thinking a lot about my future. Since I've started teaching, I've felt pretty confident in my career. Since I've started dating, I have not felt at all confident in my love life. I am coming to terms with that. Several years ago, I stopped looking at my life as linear. I've happily destroyed timelines. Maybe I'll get married, maybe I won't. Maybe my future husband and I will settle in some US city/suburb with our children or maybe we'll travel the world with them. For right now, I will live in the present, enjoy the relationships I form throughout my travels, and continue to leave my mother to love on her grandcats.